speak up, quiet down

I find personal communications to be extremely important to most things that I do.  If I can’t express myself properly to others around me then it really doesn’t matter how good my ideas are. No one will listen to them.

I feel that my main problem is that my voice is too high-pitched and quiet. I don’t believe that gives my ideas enough weight or gravitas. I often find that I get much better results when I present my arguments in a written form.

If I find that I must discuss an issue orally, specially with people who I don’t know I find that I must force myself to deepen my voice and speak more forcefully.  This “voice” seems to fit my appearance and personality a little better than my normal speaking voice.  The voice lends the necessary force to my words and imbues them with the importance that they deserve.

At the same time though I don’t like to use this ‘voice’ when dealing with people I know on a personal level.  They seem more reluctant to open up about themselves if they feel that I might dominate the discussion.  So in those situations I tend to quiet down and let them carry the conversation.

I hope to one day refine and find a happy medium that I can adopt and don’t have to “assume”.  Something that I don’t have to don and find natural enough to wear every day.

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