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Have you ever used online dating?  I haven’t been on a dating website in awhile.

My profile is still on a couple of sites but I never check on them and over the years even the automated emails from the sites have stopped coming.

None of the sites were ever satisfactory.  What I found was that these sites mainly tended to boil down the matching experience to what people looked like on their profiles and that most people there were on the site to score some quick dates.

People come on the sites and have the most extremely rigid requirements for a partner.  Must be so tall, weigh no more than this, like nutella but not peanut butter, like cats and hate dogs, and so on.

I suppose that people have a faith in technology that tells them that if it’s being handled by computer then there must be a match for them somewhere because in its own way technology can do anything.

But it really can’t.  These sites use slightly different versions of the same matching programs and the only difference might be in the database pool that they have to draw upon.

Worst of all are the matching functions that tend to match better looking people together.  Facial recognition software does this in the background and is based on some standards that only the programmers know and suggests people to talk to based on looks.

The last site I tried was about four years ago.  I gave it about six month till I realized it was the same experience as the others.  However this site had a blogging function and a forum function where people could meet and chat away on any subject.

I quit actively looking for dates but couldn’t get enough of the forums and the blogs which were much more interesting to read.  As a dating site it was unsatisfactory, as a source of friends and online companions it was great.  Like all good things though people drifted off the site.  I still maintain contact with several of them through Facebook though.

Have you ever tried these sites?  What was your experience?

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